Grief is about learning to live life in a new way

When it comes to leading and change management in congregations, I have observed that there is an issue often overlooked. As a leader, when you propose change, it may be threatening to some because it means loss of the more familiar and possibly cherished. People grieve as a result. In the drive True Religion Jeans UK  toward gaining results, leaders may forget that change, for those affected by it, always involves a loss of some kind and that loss generates grief in various magnitudes.

Just as change is inevitable and necessary, the associated grief is also inevitable and necessary. Grief is about learning to live life in a new way, without something you once knew or had. The emotions of the process are also necessary and appropriate, as long as no one gets hurt and the individual True Religion Petite doesn't get "stuck" in one of these emotional places.

The grief associated with change may appear as shock and numbness, with things being strangely quiet for a while. Anger may surface. Depression may set in. Any of these may be perceived as a hostile threat to the sensitive leader. But, more likely, just as at the graveside, the emotions may be saying, "Help me understand and come to terms with this change/loss."

Hopefully, when visiting with those who have lost a loved one through death, one has the good sense not to say things, though well-meant, such as "This just must be God's will" or "Don't cry everything True Religion UK will be fine." But, as we lead change and encounter its associated grief over loss, we often do brush off the grief in this way. Just like those who voice those well-meant statements to those grieving the loss of a loved one, we who are leading change employ similar statements True Religion T-shirts and attitudes in hope that everyone will settle down and be happy because we will be uncomfortable if they don't. We want the grieving to just "get over it." Such an approach is not comforting for those experiencing crushing grief of loss associated with change and such may actually cause them to grieve longer.

People need an outlet for their grief and an environment in which they can work through it. It takes time to get used to being without it, if one ever does. When leading needed change, be sure to allow time for people to work through and talk through their pain. Give time for grieving and walk with those who are grieving to True Religion Jackets a new way of living in light of the change.

Dr. J. Michael Godfrey, DMin, PhD, ACC is the founder of True Course Ministries and True Course Living, Learning, Leading, which provides Life, Career, and Leadership Development for Clergy, Business Professionals, and Executives.
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